We are very different from each other but very similar in our approach.
Our attitude is simple: there is no such thing as a perfect marriage, but there are endless ways for two people to find common ground in their differences.
We take an "attachment" approach which basically means we believe that each of us is designed to feel loved and be loved and anything that makes us nervous, anxious, annoyed, mad, scared, frustrated.... those can best be "talked at" through an attachment lens.
The best part of this attachment lens is that we can pretty quickly get to the root emotion and if your spouse can hear you (with our help of course) then big changes can occur in the room and that leads into your home life being better.
Neither of us believe we're perfect and you'll get a few surprises at how much we want you to be YOU, not some stereotype of a therapy client, or not some drone who uses the right "I feel" statements. We aren't mind readers and we're very open to being corrected if we get something wrong in what we think may be going on for you or your spouse.
We love couples because we love the heat, the energy, the "reality check" that is only offered when both of you are in the room. (As compared to individual therapy where you could spend years believing your story is reality, only to find a few sessions with your spouse is quite eye opening! We all make false assumptions about our spouses...often without even realizing they're assumptions, not reality.)
We aren't sparmy individuals and we hate to use psychobabble. Yes, we do love the fancy words that our masters degree gave us, but we almost apologize and ask if our clients would like the fancy phrase to describe a feeling or moment or approach.
Laughing is common in our offices. This couples therapy work can be really intense but it can also be very amusing. Our ideal clients read our website, resonate and come in and get started.